5 Things I Want My Tween Sons To Know Before They Become Teenagers


My tween sons are on the brink of adolescence. They are changing. We can both see it and neither of us is overly happy about it.

My eldest son is such a gentle soul, who doesn’t like change. He needs constant guidance and reassurance as the hormones rage through his body and he battles with these forces he doesn’t understand.

My younger son isn’t too far behind him and before too long, instead of living with tween sons, I will be living with two teenagers. Male teenagers. As a solo mum, it is a daunting prospect.

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I look at the men in their lives and the men that are their ‘role models’ in society and wonder what messages sink in. What do my tween sons think it means to be a man?

I hope that how I have raised them has instilled some important foundations for what it means to be a good human. I am proud of who they are. But I know that the forces of peer pressure can make being a teenager a treacherous time.

My tween sons are growing up fast

Here are five things I want them to know before they become teenagers. Five important life lessons that I think make the man.

5 things my tween sons should know

1. Boys and girls have equal worth.

Men do not hold more power than women. Women do not hold more power than men. No body owns you, and you have no right to control or be controlled by someone else. Also, no really does mean NO.

2. Stay true to yourself and your values.

There will always be people who try to convince you to do things you know aren’t right or that you aren’t comfortable with. Listen to your inner voice, even if it means making the unpopular or uncool decision.

3. Own your feelings and express them in a healthy way.

Don’t bottle things up. Don’t feel like you can’t be mad or sad or scared or confused. Find a healthy outlet to let off steam, be it sport, writing, singing or talking about. It is more manly to show emotion than it is to be a ticking time bomb of repressed feelings.

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4. Be responsible for yourself.

Learn to cook, look after your things, clean up after yourself. There are no magic fairies and the sooner you learn these life skills the better. Don’t expect anyone else to take care of you, especially not a woman! You are responsible for you.

5. Kindness trumps everything.

Be the helpers, the ones who lift people up rather than putting them down. You will make the world a better place and you will be a better person for it.

Do you have tween sons? What would you like them to learn before they are older?




About Author

Renee Meier

Renée is a freelance writer, perpetual student and aspiring novelist. In her spare time she's the sole parent to 3 rambunctious little people. She survives predominantly on coffee and squishy hugs.


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